I want to describe why therapy is for everyone and how we can think about and change some of the ideas around succesful engagment in the therapy room.
It can be very difficult to understand our own limitations and blind spots (blind spots are those areas we find hard to see ourselves but are aware they exsist). No one is immune to stressful life events and being able to ask for help can feel like an admission of defeat. We often share our blind spots with those who are closes to us like friends or family, resulting in the group suppression of unwanted feelings and not being OK. This sometimes makes it very isolating and shameful to admit that you are struggling.
Choosing to see a therapist can feel like the last resort but really we only provide a non judgemental safe environment for you to engage in your own process. Therapy is work and it can be hard but so rewarding. As your therapist I can see how best to facilitate your most effective route to what you want. This is the skill I bring to the table in our sessions. The therapeutic process will sometimes be based around this type of framework.
- Understand your current situation.
- Identify what needs to change.
- Understand how certain views and beliefs are getting in the way of what you want.
- work together on reestablishing a better relationship with your emotions/thinking/behaviours.
- Resolve unwanted feelings
- learn tools to move forward in your life with better resources
This process may take a few sessions to a longer period of time depending on where you start and how open you are to change. Therapy is a opportunuty to have a non judgemental relationship with another person who can support you, at your most vulnerable. I often remind a client that they can not get therapy wrong because it is based on the uniqueness of the individual. There is no one who is you and has had the same life experiences.
When I am contacted by a potential client, I can see the courage it has taken to ask for support and realise that this courage is the sign I need to know they are ready to start the process of evolving into their highest potential.